WORK ETHIC

Right now I live with people who when they wash the glasses, I can still see the grime of fingerprints and lip stains on the outside. Right now I have guy friends who will let a dog pee on their carpet and not clean it up because they don't have paper towels. They are almost 30 and allow mountains of beer cans to pile up in the kitchen uncovered. The dustbunnies surrounding their tangled electronics haven't moved in over a year. And this is not the exception of a male household, its the general rule and I HATE it.

My married sister said that men are just like that. They don't fold towels, they don't clean dishes, and they don't do anything 100%. She says women just work harder than men. She loves her husband and she says he makes up for it in other ways. She is totally okay with that, but I am totally not. She said its second nature for women to think of what it takes to complete a task well. So I ask, why shouldn't it be the same for men? Why don't they also step up their game so we don't have to?

I can't remember the movie, I think it was a terrible one, but there is a scene that exemplifies it perfectly. Jennifer Aniston asked Vince Vaughn to pick up 12 lemons for a centerpiece for the dinner table. He came back with a lime (or nothing, I can't remember). Why is that okay? why is that funny? It's the most frustrating thing in the world. She counted on him and he failed massively. If it was his job he should be fired. And this is just a small cinematic example of the bigger problem.
Women just don't do that, whether its guilt driven or ingrained after centuries of multitasking, they are just better at stuff. A woman would bring the 12 lemons and it wouldn't be a big deal. So why do so many men do things half assed and its supposed to be charming? "oh look how helpless he is, he can't pay rent so I'll let him sleep in my bed with me for free for 4 months." PUKE!

And even though a guy will often rise to the occasion if asked, I don't want to ask. I don't want to be the nagging bitch nit picking at every little thing. It makes me not like myself. And it takes so much time! I might as well do it myself.

Okay, I do know men who aren't like this. My dad for one is not like this. He cleans way more than my mom and always does what he says he is going to do. If he exists, there must be more men like him. And I know them when I see them. Here are a few clues into seeing the diamond in the rough.
- if he pushes in his chair
- if he grabs your empty plate as he moves his to the sink
- if he folds the handtowel when he puts it back on the rack
- if he gives you one paper instead of handing you the stack (this is in a classroom scenario)
- if he does not put laundry on the floor.
- if he enjoys folding his socks (one of the sexiest things I've heard on the phone was "I'm just folding my socks.")

These things show attention to detail, they make me swoon! which in turn makes me feel like in a relationship, he will notice my details. A careless man makes for a careless companion and is not for me. It may seem judgmental but have you ever seen otherwise?

I'm not perfect, I let things fall through the cracks. I forget and can be quite inconsiderate at times. But I try hard to do things well,

So dear dudes, I love you, you are sexy and funny and I want you to make me yours, but please please please- love is not enough, get yourself a Swiffer and scrub, cause it will make me want you even more.